11 Questions That Change My Life On Repeat

Wow – my first blog in over three years! The winding road of life has certainly evolved since I last wrote in this way. I’m grateful to be back. It feels like home.

The past three years have been the craziest explosion of magic, adventure, potential and joy ever. I would say that I’m surprised – however – all of this was deliberate. I chose it relentless through times when people told me I was crazy, laughed at me, rejected me and said “Who does she think she is?!”.

Turns out crazy results require a bit of crazy action that’s the direct opposite of what most people do. I knew this and living it is a different story. Living this wattage of life is just different and I’m really grateful. To you the reader, to every previous version of me who chose the truth of my heart without knowing and to the woman I am today.

In the past three years I created a six figure brand and mission in Mindful Music, started Mindful Joy, became a Shaman (officially) and moved to Maui having never been there for a year of adventure, expansion and turns out – the hardest season of growth to date. I'm integrating, I'm changing and I'm discovering a new layer of who I really am. 

I’m now sitting in snow covered Michigan in the house I grew up in, watching the swirls of a blizzard outside and in a state of deep reflection. Aligned with the winter season, I’m looking inward. Turns out I have a lot to say. It doesn’t fit in an email. It doesn’t fit in an Instagram post. Hell, it doesn’t even fit in my body, brain or heart – it’s bursting forth to come through to YOU.

Today I'm sharing the questions that change my life on repeat. I return to these questions, sometimes daily, as navigation tools to the correct path, the real me and my highest potential in a world that screams chaos, mediocrity and distraction.

To me, living a life of meaning, joy, expansion, impact and devotion is not about having answers. Funnily enough – the older I get and the more I live – I have less answers.

The quality of your life is not determined by the answers you have, rather, the quality of the questions you entertain, explore and expand into. From here innate wisdom is gained. More in a wide cellular knowing, than a one size fits all prescription.

So happy early holidays and new year, dear reader. Today I gift these life-changing questions to you. Some are from others and some are from myself. May they guide you, hold you, love you, expose you and empower you like they have me.

• What are you unwilling to feel? This is from Tara Brach and her book Radical Acceptance. Every single growth in your life can be facilitated with the confronting answer to this question. In every moment you’re either willing to lean in or unwilling to. A lot of people want a lot of things – rare is the soul willing to feel what’s required – the truth.

• How am I complicit in creating the results I say I don’t want? This question is from Tim Ferris – my secret long time crush and who knows, future husband? He’s a giant in the podcast and high performance world. It’s confronting to ponder how you’re actively participating in what you’ve claimed you don’t desire. This is always true in some sense, because we are always both the problem and the solution.

• What’s the one thing, such that by doing it, everything else is easier of unnecessary? A gem from Gary Keller – this is the 80/20 rule on steroids. It deletes excess and dials in the one heavy hitting move that will create your inevitable success. Most goals, whether it’s business, personal or anything, can be narrowed to less than five major phases. Each has ONE THING. Complexity fails, simplicity scales. Live accordingly.

• Did this create success or was it added after success? This is from me after 15+ years coaching high performance and 5 years in full time entrepreneurship where I mentor in healing, knowledge and skill. Daily habits, the unsexy work, the fundamentals are what create success. The bells and whistles are what get added *after* success. A surefire trap to be aware of is adding the bells and whistles first – which is frustrating because you’re adding it to nothing. A lot of entrepreneurs do this because they witness people at other stages. I do this as I witness people ahead of me. Step one: Create Success. Step Two: Maintain Success + Add the Flair. Step Three: See where you’re adding flair to nothing and go back a step.

• What would make me proud? What story do I want to tell in my rocking chair? Another from me. I ask myself this every day, especially now, as I’m in the most uncertainty ever. I asked myself this in 2020 when the world shut down and I saw souls shutting down – giving their power, dreams and goals away to the pandemic. Every single moment I strive to be someone I’m proud of so that when I’m telling the story of my life from the rocking chair one day – it’s one hell of a story, that I’m proud of and it’s wildly entertaining too. I’m the main character baby and I get to write the story. So do you.

• If I had one month to live, would I do this? One simple way to make clear decisions is to get up close and personal with death. I recorded a podcast on this – listen here. The deepest pain and sadness is someone getting to the end of life knowing they never actually really lived. This happened in my life at age sixteen in my car accident where I magically got the chance to come back to life. If you wouldn’t do it in your final year of life, why the fuck are you doing it now? Do not pardon my French – this is massively important.

• Where have a made a fake decision? From me! A lot of people talk about decision fatigue, no one is talking about fake decisions. This is the silly game we play where we pretend we decided to make ourselves feel better in the moment, when, we actually cage ourselves even more. It goes like this – you’re hemming each day about if you’ll exercise because you fake decided to exercise. If you actually decided, it would be automatic and you’d have mental bandwidth for more worthwhile things. It’s the proclamation not backed with action. It’s fake. It’s also the core origin of why you don’t trust yourself, love yourself or respect yourself.

•  What would my inner child do? Me again. Your inner child is a direct lifeline to your soul. We come into this life pure, connected to our magic, knowing that we are limitless creators and with all the wisdom from past lives. And then of course…life happens. We get programmed to forget our power and the whole spiritual path is about remembering who you are. Get out of your adult jaded lens and ask your inner child – it’s not childish, it’s childlike. The wonder, enchantment and pure knowing that always guides you the right way.

• If I was worthy, what would I do? This comes from my Breathwork teachers, Cory and Jess. For whatever reason, I have never struggled with imposter syndrome in my life, I have struggled with worthiness. It comes from programming of shame for our desires, power and beyond. Shoutout to Breathwork and this question that heal me. I guarantee your whole life would change if you just asked yourself at every junction, what you would do if you were worthy. Usually fear will be waiting for you there, but that my friend, is why they call is courage. Just because the world lives from lack and “not enough”, doesn’t mean you have to.

• What game am I playing? Did I choose it or did someone else? Am I playing or getting played? This is my newest question I formed and it’s fabulous. We are all playing games. In New York – the game of power, In L.A. – the game of fame, insert whatever location or group -there’s a game. For a conscious life of truth, love and potential – you must be highly attuned to the games being played and choose yours. Most people are playing games they have no idea they are because it’s just baked into the culture and the surroundings/people they engage with. This is why you definitely are the sum total of the 5 people you spend the most time with. One example: Most people play the game of cost – where they trade time for money and see money as a finite resource. It sucks in my opinion. It's a recipe for poverty, regret and broken hearts. The wealthy play the game of value – where time is the finite resource and money always replenishes. I choose to play this game with it's inevitable challenges because it creates the results I desire. None of us are immune which is why digital detox, boundaries, habits and high level network is vital to your dreams. You cannot be mentally lazy, or else, you get played.

• What would love do? Joe Dispenza asks this and I simply love it. In a crazy divisive world, it has become a radical act to operate from love, let alone consistently and unconditionally. It’s worth noting that love is not always oozing gooey hugs and celebration – there’s a fierce love of liberation, honor and protection that must exist too. The heart chakra is the only chakra with a shell – because a fortress must be provided for the most potent medicine to remain pure.

I have about 50 more I could share. Eleven is a fantastic start.

 Which ones resonated the most for you? Which ones were the most confronting? I recommend going to those first. They contain the codes to your deepest breakthroughs. The things that have the power to change your life the most are the ones you’ll resist the most.

Comment below and let me know. Or shoot me an email at [email protected]. I love hearing from you.

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May the force be with you and may these questions lead you to the force that always lies within you.

In love, leadership and pursuit of a better world,

Adrienne